I know that some of you, my friends, had difficult Christmases to face this year. Well, you aren’t alone. The continuity is that Christmas comes every year. My memories are scattered all over my tree in representative ornaments, and my external hard drives and photo albums are full of Christmas pictures. Proof that it comes every year. Proof that even in bad times, there can be, there must be, Christmas.
I am crazy about my family. I am crazy about Christmas. I always want to give my family the best memories possible. As a child, it never crossed my mind to wonder if my parents had any expectations about Christmas. But, I don’t really think they did. Things were simple, easy, and my brother and I were grateful for whatever came during the holy season.
Through the years, I have had my own expectations of Christmas. It is amazing how those expectations have changed as our family degenerated. I used to expect that my children would enjoy Christmas, that all the toys would actually work, that the family dinner would turn out perfectly, and that the weather wouldn’t hamper our plans to visit our family in another state. As our children left home and married, I expected them to come to the family gathering, to be on time, and I expected the meal, now larger, to be enjoyable. As we began to be blessed with grandchildren, we expected to see their shining faces opening presents under our family tree. We expected to get to play with their new toys with them and to read them the books we had given them. We expected nothing from them except to just be with them and give them our love in hugs, kisses, and presents. These are simple expectations, right? Wrong! Continue reading

